How to Become the Couple You Long to Be

Eugene, OR — To attain any goal, it is helpful to have a support system to offer encouragement in the tough times, wisdom based on personal experience, and an example to aspire to. Having a mentor can make all the difference in the world. The same is true when it comes to marriage. Every couple needs a more experienced couple to come alongside them, dedicated to helping build the marriage they’ve always dreamed of. In The Marriage Mentor: Becoming the Couple You Long to Be (Harvest House Publishers/August 7, 2018/ISBN: 978-0736971430/$15.99), Steve and Rhonda Stoppe are that couple.

After three decades of doing life together, raising four children, and helping other couples build no-regrets marriages, the Stoppes have compiled their success secrets into an easy-to-read, fun, and interactive book. Every page feels like a candid conversation with a friend. Readers will laugh and learn from a biblical perspective the secrets to enjoying a marriage that lasts a lifetime.

WATCH VIDEOS OF THE Stoppes discussing highlights from each chapter: https://www.rhondastoppe.com/marriage-mentor/

“As a young bride, I knew I was not the wife I had hoped I would be. I would buy books about being a better wife, but I soon learned the books did not have the power to change me,” Rhonda admits. “My husband and I were in youth ministry, so I looked to the marriages of the parents of the teens for help. The Bible calls the older women to teach the younger how to love their husbands and their children, so I asked women with marriages I wanted to emulate to be my Titus 2 mentors. What I learned from these women transformed my marriage and my parenting.”

Recognizing most books are bought by women, and most men don’t love to read, The Marriage Mentor is broken down into small sections with separate sections for the husband and wife to read. Each chapter includes:

Man to Man: A short section printed in gray so men can’t miss it, written by Steve talking specifically to husbands.

From a Husband’s Perspective: A segment written from Steve to wives to offer insight to the male point of view.

From a Wife’s Perspective: Rhonda jumps in to give husband’s an explanation of how a woman thinks.

Thinking it Through and Living it Out: Discussion questions that will prompt healthy conversations.

Marriage Mentor Videos: Fun and lighthearted online videos of Steve and Rhonda discussing each chapter.

“After a game, a good coach will have his players watch replays of the game—instructing them to evaluate their performance. This process is effective in coaching and is also an important practice for any man who wants to better himself as a husband, father and man of God,” Steve explains.

For anyone who tells themselves they’ll work on their relationship tomorrow, but tomorrow never seems to come, this book is the resource they need to get their marriage on track. With practical application, The Marriage Mentor will help readers: learn to engage in meaningful conversation, break free from regrets that hold them back, renew their hope for lifelong love.

INTERVIEW QUESTIONS:

Why is it important for young married couples to have older couples in their lives as mentors?

This is your husband, Steve’s first official book with a byline. How did he contribute to The Marriage Mentor?

How is the book divided for male and female readers? Is it ok for both husband and wife to read the entire book?

What does it mean to mentor? How do you and Steve mentor young married couples?

Should every Christian couple either have a marriage mentor or be a mentor?

Should a young couple seek out an older couple or is it ok, for example, for the young wife to see out a mentor on her own?

Do you have to be intentional in starting a mentoring relationship or is it something that can be more be more organic and simply grown into a mentorship?

Do you ever quit growing and learning in marriage?

FOR FULL MEDIA KIT: RhondaStoppe@icloud.com

About the Author / Expert: Rhonda Stoppe
Book or Product Name: The Marriage Mentor (Harvest House Publishers 2013)
Book or Product Description: Eugene, OR — To attain any goal, it is helpful to have a support system to offer encouragement in the tough times, wisdom based on personal experience, and an example to aspire to. Having a mentor can make all the difference in the world. The same is true when it comes to marriage. Every couple needs a more experienced couple to come alongside them, dedicated to helping build the marriage they’ve always dreamed of. In The Marriage Mentor: Becoming the Couple You Long to Be (Harvest House Publishers/August 7, 2018/ISBN: 978-0736971430/$15.99), Steve and Rhonda Stoppe are that couple. After three decades of doing life together, raising four children, and helping other couples build no-regrets marriages, the Stoppes have compiled their success secrets into an easy-to-read, fun, and interactive book. Every page feels like a candid conversation with a friend. Readers will laugh and learn from a biblical perspective the secrets to enjoying a marriage that lasts a lifetime. “As a young bride, I knew I was not the wife I had hoped I would be. I would buy books about being a better wife, but I soon learned the books did not have the power to change me,” Rhonda admits. “My husband and I were in youth ministry, so I looked to the marriages of the parents of the teens for help. The Bible calls the older women to teach the younger how to love their husbands and their children, so I asked women with marriages I wanted to emulate to be my Titus 2 mentors. What I learned from these women transformed my marriage and my parenting.” The Stoppes explain that mentoring is not a program. Rather, mentorship is building relationships with people, so you can do life together. They give the example of the way Jesus taught the disciples while they walked, camped and fished together as the perfect illustration of mentoring. Mentors should share with transparency what they have learned from their own successes and failures. When someone believes a mentor emphasizes with their struggles, they earn the right to speak truth into the lives of their mentees. “With every wedding ceremony that Steve agrees to perform, we spend six weeks in premarital counseling with the couple. We don’t think anyone should get married without having this type of focused interaction with a seasoned couple. Not only do the sessions open conversations to teach them how to manage carefully conflicts down the road, it also builds a relationship between us and the couple. So, after they are wed, they’re more likely to reach out to us when they have questions or struggles,” Rhonda shares. Recognizing most books are bought by women, and most men don’t love to read, The Marriage Mentor is broken down into small sections with separate sections for the husband and wife to read. Each chapter includes: Man to Man: A short section printed in gray so men can’t miss it, written by Steve talking specifically to husbands. From a Husband’s Perspective: A segment written from Steve to wives to offer insight to the male point of view. From a Wife’s Perspective: Rhonda jumps in to give husband’s an explanation of how a woman thinks. Thinking it Through and Living it Out: Discussion questions that will prompt healthy conversations. Marriage Mentor Videos: Fun and lighthearted online videos of Steve and Rhonda discussing each chapter. “After a game, a good coach will have his players watch replays of the game—instructing them to evaluate their performance. This process is effective in coaching and is also an important practice for any man who wants to better himself as a husband, father and man of God,” Steve explains. For anyone who tells themselves they’ll work on their relationship tomorrow, but tomorrow never seems to come, this book is the resource they need to get their marriage on track. With practical application, The Marriage Mentor will help readers: learn to engage in meaningful conversation, break free from regrets that hold them back, renew their hope for lifelong love. “Steve and Rhonda Stoppe debunk misleading myths with grace, humor, and candor and leave you with hope that your marriage can become more than the stuff of your dreams,” said Richard Blackaby, author of The Seasons of God.
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